Help - Yes No Maybe
You'll notice that we now provide coloured
buttons in the search results and on members' profiles.
principle is really simple - you just 'tag' all the people who
you are interested in 'Yes' and 'Maybe' ...we then tell you when you have a
mutual match (i.e. you both have clicked Yes/Maybe to each other).
You 'Tag' the people by clicking on the appropriate coloured button.
of the YNM system is that (unlike 'Favourites') no one can directly tell if/what someone
has tagged them - only if you are a mutual Yes/Maybe. So no need to worry about causing
offence by tagging people as a No
or that people will think you are too keen by tagging them as a Yes or a Yes!
We recommend that you do lots of tagging
- helps your 'Not Yet Tagged' Search
- stimulates the system and generates
more dating opportunities
- helps Matchbot decide good matches for
...but please don't just do tagging. Proactively send winks and
messages as well!
How do I get mutual Yes/Maybes?
You can view these either from the People page
(top menu) or search results page by selecting the dropdown at the top of the
To get lots of mutual matches our advice is: Log in
regularly - tag lots of people - don't be too fussy ...and it should throw
up some interesting possibilities.
Who's tagged ME as Yes/Maybe?
We have prepared a SPECIAL SEARCH called
'Who's tagged me as Yes/Maybe?'
(on the People page and the Search Results dropdown). This
search is pretty clever in that it mixes people up who have definitely tagged
you as a Yes/Maybe with some others on the same page. This gives you an
efficient way of tagging these without revealing exactly who has tagged you and
Why tag people No?
We have another special search called Not Yet Tagged . This lets you easily just see 'New'
faces in the results i.e. not have your results clogged up with profiles you
have seen umpteen times before.
What are the
small intermediate boxes for?
These are for members who are organised and like categorising things. They let
you put people in an intermediate or extreme box which you can
review and re-categorise later if you wish (from the People page on the
The two boxes
either side of the central Maybe box let you
tag people as Yes/Maybe and Maybe/Hmmm
The extreme green box is
for Yes! (i.e. this person really is your cup of tea) and the extreme
right red box is No! (...as in 'No way Jose!'). The other person
has no idea if they are a Yes! or just a Yes. These subcategories are for your
own use and Matchbot as well (our computer can use them when trying to match
What is the
small grey box for?
It deletes any previous tag you may have applied to the
person. Effectively this 'Untags' them.
Can I review/change
who I've tagged?
Of course. You can do this either from the People
page (top menu) or search results page by selecting the dropdown at the top of the page.
You are welcome to review and reclassify people as often as you wish
How long do you keep my tags for?
In order to speed up the system we need to delete old tags periodically - as
tagging accumulates millions of records. We will keep data for the
following minimum lengths
- Full members: 8 weeks
- Free members: 3 weeks
You are most welcome to re-tag people when the
data gets cleared. If you are a mutual match then there will have been an
email generated that acts as your permanent record.
3 weeks is typically enough time to wait to see if you become a mutual
8 weeks makes it more convenient for Full Members to do a NotYet Tagged
search without having to do excessive re-tagging.
Not Yet Tagged Search
The 'Tag Some People' button (various places) and 'Not Yet Tagged' link
(Search sub-menu) go one step further. They do a search based on your Speedy
Criteria and if they ever run out of people they adjust themselves slightly to
keep giving you more people to Tag. You shouldn't have to worry about going back
and forth adjusting criteria ...you just keep tagging until the profiles get too
far removed from what you're looking for.
The idea is you just press 'Tag Some People' every few days and get
tagging. Of course we'd encourage you to send emails, winks, icebreaker and 'Add
to favourites' as well.
Why does Tagging help the site?
Essentially we can break down members of dating sites into several
different groups. Let us consider the following four categories. These are not
meant to encompass everyone but just significant numbers of members
1. The Noticeably Attractive
Very good looking and/or have a great
job and interesting profile.
2. The Regularly Proactive
Have a good profile and send lots of
interesting messages out.
3. The Average but Selective
Only send messages to a fairly select
number of people. The people they send them to often tend to be the 'Noticeably
Attractive' or similar.
Don't send messages out proactively - wait to be
contacted in some way.
Group 1 receives loads of messages and Group 2 receives 'enough'
replies. So the Tagging system (tagging profiles Yes or Maybe) can be
superfluous to their use of the site
Groups 3 and 4 >>>the Tagging system opens up more dating
opportunities and kick-starts their use of the site.
Group 4 is really large! Lots of people join dating sites and wait for
the world to beat a path to their door.
People in group 4 are very reluctant to send an email
unprompted. However, they can be more easily persuaded to tag profiles as 'Maybe'. When
they receive some prompt e.g. a wink, message or alert to say someone likes them
then this can be catalyst to get them to write a message. The Tagging system
prompts Group 4 people (Wallflowers/Spectators) to start chatting with each other.
Group 3 (Average but
Selective ) probably don't realise that they are focusing on the same
'popular' profiles everyone else is. Also they tend to be (perhaps
subconsciously) trying to date if not 'out of their league' but 'at the top of
their league'. Hence they can get a poor response rate.
By having a weekly quota of tagging and our new 'Not Yet Tagged' search we encourage
them to go slightly beyond their comfort zone of focussing on a small number
of the same (most popular) profiles.
The 'Not Yet Tagged' search is great as it shows more and more
'unviewed' people. Hence there is no need to wade through he 'same' people that are
always at the top of the search lists (because they login most often).
Getting Group 3 people to look at 'different' profiles and perhaps expand
their boundaries with a few more 'Maybes' generates real dating
So essentially if you are in Group 1 or 2
you probably don't need/appreciate the benefit of the tagging system. If
you are a Group 1/2 person - you can ignore the tagging system if it annoys you ...it
is not compulsory. We would agree with Group 2 people that writing
an email is much better than tagging people.
However, it would be
good for you to note that large numbers of people in
groups 3 and 4 really do benefit. We can see their use of the site and messaging increasing
...however (unlike Group 2) they are the least likely to email in
to admin to give us feedback on this matter. ;-)